Thread: Earning trust
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Old Nov 03, 2013, 06:07 PM
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The problem is that if I even talk to another man it seems as though he gets upset. I understand this, it was caused by my actions and the fact that trust was lost between us. I know I need to earn this trust back but am unsure how to start other than being honest and working so hard on recovery. I also worry thay because I'm not really allowed to talk to other men, will I ever be given the chance to prove that I can be trusted again? Do I need to just be patient? Is there anything I can do to repair the damage I've done?

Is it possible that you are now feeling hyper-sensitive whenever you are around men and your hub is around as well? Perhaps that's a possibility?

Are you still an active member of FB and/or other online meet-up places? Have you changed what you do around your husband ~ to make him feel more appreciated? Like: give him more attention, make his favorite meal more often, go places together more often, that sort of thing.

Perhaps seeing a T together is going to be in order if you are doing what you can & not doing what you shouldn't, yet your hub is often giving you the "evil eye" or making insecure, snide remarks. That's when an extra hand, one that is indifferent to either "side", can be especially helpful!

Very best wishes to you and your husband!
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