I completely understand and offer you the biggest of hugs. I don't like stuff like that and I'm angry for you. I do think your sister had good intentions, but I do not feel that her behavior was fair. She was uncomfortable with the way your life is going. To me, that sounds like her problem, not yours. Probably not the best opinion, but i've had enough betrayal to know exactly how you feel and enough to know that change is not effective until the person who has to experience it is ready to.