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Originally Posted by granite1
she asked me if there was ever a time that I had burned my finger tips and after a silence I told her when I was younger I use to burn my finger tips ,silence ,she asked how and I said on a radiator .she strongly in boot camp T style said that radiators don't burn fingers, I said they do if they have hot water running through them. AND THEY DO. she again sternly asked how else and I said on the stove top. she then said did you do that or some one else .I said some one else and stopped the conversation .i didn't want to argue with her anymore I was devastated.
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Originally Posted by CantExplain
She's wrong.
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Granite, i think its that simple. She is wrong, doesn't understand about radiators, etc. it is NOT her not believing you, i firmly believe that.
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Originally Posted by granite1
I think I am just kind of scared to deal with this again Tuesday so I am working my self into a frenzy and upset to avoid it and focus on the one little thing she messed up on. I feel I did all this to myself by starting that time line again. I know my T said it is good that I am allowing myself to look at this stuff but I don't think I have a choice it is there and not so sure it is good for me to look at this stuff.
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Look at you, figuring yourself out!!!
It is good for you to look at it, in tiny glimpses I think. Of course you are going to get severly triggered when this stuff comes up because it is absolute awful what your mother did to you. You shut down very easily and quickly (and understandably!!), and don't give your T much time to capitulate on everything you are saying. I think you shrink down to survivor mode and can only think either "she hates me" or "she doesn't believe me," when in fact she has said things to you that very clearly indicates that she knows awful things went on.
is this therapist a trauma therapist?