Le gra go deo - I totally understand that to a man sex says love, to a woman love means kindness. I have been working on alot in T. Past rape and CSA. I just need a temporary break. He has a need bigger then I can fulfill at the moment. The goal at the moment is to get me better so eventually I can be what he needs and what I need to. I would like to think he would rather have a willing partner not a dissociated partner. If he could just give me the time I need to heal emotionally I think things will eventually work out.

I totally get he can't wait forever to. He has needs and if they are not met I don;t think he will continue to stay. He didn't get married to become a monk, he got married to enjoy the same sexual partner for eternity. Well he got married for other reasons to.
Right now I am not really in an emotionally secure place in our relationship. I have alot of forgiving to do and he has some proving that it is safe to forgive him for some of the abusive things he has done as well.