not a problem hon. I lost a granddaughter 10 yrs ago...wow just saying that seems so long ago but yet just like it was yesterday. on her birthday and anniversary of her death my daughter use to take off work. it was eating her alive. I finally told her the best thing for her to do was work on those days to keep her mind occupied. I can't tell you how much it has helped her keeping busy. I think that is so important. I know we have to have time to grieve but I don't think we should wallow in it either. our loved ones would not want that for us. I am glad you got to spend alot of time with your aunt. that means alot to her and to you!