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It feels like so many people blame everything on bipolar, "Oh Im sad, must be the bipolar" "I cant help it" there is a helplessness here which is starting to bring my enthusiasm down. I notice people react aggressively when someone points out an obvious flaw in their thinking or behaviour patterns. I feel like I am being judgemental when I see posters who do nothing to improve themselves and just give in to their emotional responses.
Yes, I think sometimes there is a kind of unspoken dichotomy present between pointing out that this may be situational and a personal reaction (judgmental) and pointing out that you're probably in x type of episode (not judgmental and well received). Which brings us back to the "not-my-fault-behavior" = bipolar, and "my-fault-behavior" = non-bipolar. Which circles back to the problem, as I see it, of shame, and why behavior we're ashamed of can more readily be placed in the bipolar bin. I think if the shame were tamped down a bit, there would be less helplessness and more flexibility in considering different possible causes of what is going on.
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