Totally been there. There were elements of pregnancy that I really enjoyed but found it to be this experience of almost compulsory femininity. Not just in how I looked but even things like having a baby shower really freaked me out because it was so girly! Oh and the maternity clothes! And just about everything I read about pregnancy and childbirth seemed so foreign. My partner is more femme and is the biological mother of one of our children and I know she had less trouble with this.

Think of it this way: there's nothing pretty or delicate about childbirth! It's hard, sweaty physical work. It's actually pretty butch if you think about it! You can delight in the opportunity to fully experience the amazing things your body is doing.

When my son was 4 he fell in love with a pink bike that had sparkles and streamers and everything. He loved it so we bought it for him. Some older kids tried to tease him and tell him it was a girl's bike. He just looked at them serenely and said "no it's not because I'm a boy and it's MY bike!" I thought it was brilliant.

Your pregnancy is like that: it's butch because you are and it's YOUR pregnancy.