I'm sorry to hear about your negative experiences in this area.

For me, it has been mixed. I told my T of my feelings for her, and she has taken it very well. She has been very willing to discuss things with me. I have not yet told her of some negative transference reactions, so we will see how that goes eventually, but I imagine she will also handle that well. I will say that my T is not informative about transference, or at least hasn't really tried to explain the "why's." But maybe that's because it's very apparent in my situation.

In terms of a resolution, I don't think that will ever happen until I leave her, as distressing as it is. The experience has been very painful for me, but I think it will also be the most beneficial aspect of my therapy in the long-run.