Hi Twigger. So sorry to say I am thinking the same thing...What makes this time different. Over and Over and Over
When I was reading your post about the poems and that your g/f showed them to you etc. I was thinking great, that is exactly what she should have done. and you were right to think she should not communicate with someone that had those feelings for her. That is not fair to you or the other girl!
You may not think that little lies are important, but they are. Little lies always turn into big lies.
But my thought is why lie about anything. Is there anything that is worth breaking your trust.
You said you realized a while ago that no one can make you happy except yourself and you were so right. But along with that comes knowing your own self worth, and you are worth so much more then this girl is giving to the relationship.
Without trust there is not much and you deserve more then that