i find that often how other people treat us, and how we treat other people really determine how we treat ourselves. so, if we have competent parents, and we are a naturally sociable person, we tend to like ourselves, and others, and be nice about it.

alternately, if we are not parented well, and we are born with a predisposition to be shy or sad or angy, or to have other impairments, we can become hurt and angry and afraid, and act unpleasantly.

so, i guess to a large extent, i feel like we are what we do and say; and thinking and feeling are more private. so, i can say that sometimes i find your company interesting and pleasant, and sometimes , i find it hard to tolerate how you behave. this really says more about me, than about you.

still, i hope you come to terms with who you are, and learn to like that person, for being a person, nothing more.

best wishes~
Gus