sometimes depression can't be "helped" with suggestions and love. i know that's blunt but it sounds to me as if she needs a new medical evaluation with a psych doc as her meds may not be working.

i'd back off a little bit also. i'm the depressed "one" and am single now but my first husband told me it was in my "head" and the second one got depressed if i did. neither approach helped me one bit.

i'd read up on depression, try to find a support group for myself. a co-dependent group would work for you (i'm not saying you're co-dependent) as you could air your problems and have receptive peers to discuss this with. and post here.

i'd only urge a new evaluation with her doctor OR a NEW one.............xoxoxo pat