Help - I'm enmeshed with my husband's emotional problems. He has obsessive thoughts and can't be comfortable unless I do something that I feel is immoral. I had an affair ten years ago and ever since, he has felt inadequate in all ways (especially sexually). He wants me to keep seeing the other man and having a physical relationship with him because he would feel that all of my needs were being met and he won't have to lose me. This, in my opinion, is sick thinking. I am, however, constrained to do it since he gets all anxious and depressed if I don't. I told him to see a therapist and that we should enter marriage counseling, but he refuses. I am constantly reminded of my blunder by this behavior of his. I'm Catholic and I don't think the church condones adultery. My husband says that I am different and that I get a pass. He attributes a large sexual appetite to me which I deny. It's what he wants to believe. He is in a dream world. I can't escape him. I don't want to divorce because in all other ways he is a good person and we get along well. I do love him. I am trapped and often develop suicidal thoughts as a result. Sometimes I just don't want to live. There is no exit, as Jean-Paul Sartre once said. What is the answer?

Thank you for any thoughts on this.