thank you guys.
Unfortunately, things havenīt changed since my initial post...
Actually I confronted him about it the last time we met up.
The thing is, that most of his excuses involve his mother.
His mother wants him to do this and that, his mother wants to take him for a driving lesson, shopping, wants him to take her dog...
I tried to be nice and kind of put it on his mom and said that it seemed like he has to do an awful lot for her, it seems to me.
And he was like: "No, not at all." (even though, other times he complains about her..)
And I said, but if he feels that he cannot say "no", that that wouldnīt be good.
(He had wanted to cancel that day too, of course....
, because his mother wanted him to carry something to her apartment, I initiated him to postpone it, because I said I really wanted to meet, out of principle, because we made plans.
He did in the end, so at least we could meet for an hour and have this talk.)
He said "no, no , I can always say no, I donīt have to do anything. My mother does so much for me I want to do things for her."
I said, that if he COULD say no, then maybe he should, in case when he had already made plans with other people or a friend.
And he was like, well, when else should I do it? Tomorrow night I have to work and on the weekend you wanted to do something with me AGAIN.
I was really offended.
I called up the next day and said if he didnīt want to meet up "again" at the weekend we didnīt have to.
He said ok, this weekend wouldnīt be good. But invited me to come the next weekend.
I had a chance to work on the weekend so I asked him today if he was SURE that nothing would come up at the last second so he wouldnīt have time after all.
He said, maybe heīd have to renovate his apartment on Sunday if he wasnīt finished by Friday...
Seriously, this is getting ridiculous, Iīm just getting the feeling that he doesnīt want to see me anymore.
It hurts me very much, because I donīt have very many friends.
And get togethers with him used to be a major part in feeling better for me the last 2 years, since we met.
He used to be so friendly, warm and loving in a way.
I felt respected and liked just for being myself with him, and I donīt get that a lot.
He has changed. Heīs not as happy and free spirited anymore.
He said heīs depressed lately. Could that be why he doesnīt want to see me anymore and rather be alone?
Iīd offer help and talk to him about his problems, but I guess itīs not what he wants.
Either way, Iīm sorry if heīs feeling depressed but I donīt think itīs an excuse to treat your friends disrespectfully.
What should I do? If your answer is, make a new friend, where can I find one?
