Only 9 months...It's too soon to tell, but it could be a really good therapy. The attachment is a good thing. It sounds like you have good insight already.

I moved away. As painful as it was, we had a really great relationship. We still keep in touch. Actually, I still adore him.

In my case, childhood was so painful that I shut myself off to attachment needs. Therapy resurrected them-that is what the pain was all about. I didn't see T long enough to resolve things. Even so, I don't believe we truly heal--in the sense that we resolve all of our issues. The insatiable needs-our Ts can never take the place of what we missed out on. I say this after feeling loved for the first time in my life-from T. A taste of that just really had an activating affect on me. Or should I say intoxicating.

I do think that we can expect to end up "ok" after all is said and done. It takes time. It's good that you are thinking of this now. Some people think of a therapist as someone who can sort of magically heal them. It doesn't work that way. The fact that you do not have those expectations makes you better off in the long run.

You'll be ok.


*"We" being those who didn't have a good enough childhood.