You should not feel guilty about spending time with your husband in your own home. Your married now and your husband and your marriage should be your priority. I don't want to sound harsh or insensitive but that is how I feel about marriage and committed relationships. There has to be boundaries. I know how families can guilt you into doing things for them or being with them all the time. Its an unhealthy dependency. I myself don't like to be manipulated and made to feel guilty. It has happened to me but I learned how to start saying, no, I can't. I moved two states away from my Mom who was somewhat dependent on me. She was used to me being around all the time. But I moved to be with my BF who I consider my partner and we treat each other as such. I made him and our relationship a priority. He didn't do the same however. So I am on the opposite side of your dilemma. My BF's family is overly dependent on him and very disfunctional. I don't have much to do with them for reasons I won't get into. They have my BF feeling like he has to put them first and be at their beck and call all the time. And he does it because he feels guilty and responsible for them. This is an entire family, parents, siblings, neices, nephews. They do not consider my feelings at all. I may as well not even exist. I feel hurt that my BF puts them all first. I am babbling but this hits home so much for me. Think about your husband. The situation sounds different in that your husband seems to get along with them and doesn't mind, but still you should try to pull back some from them. A little at a time so it isn't shocking. That doesn't mean you can't see how they are or call and visit, just not all the time. I hope things work out for you and that you can stop feeling so guilty.