Thank you for the replies, she has both kids and I've got to the bottom of everything all her problems I got to the bottom of it, it's all to do with money, basically she thinks that because her kids want an Xbox one and an iPad 4 or a 90 quid doll that is basically a human she thinks they should have it all and that they get whatever they want???? When I was 8 I got an action man and if I even dared say is that it?? I'd get a slipper across the backside... The issue is her wanting to work as well her family won't look after the kids her mum is been nasty about it, everything would be simple if she world and could earn the money