Yes, sex outside of marriage is a sin.....but so is almost everything else we do also......Jesus told the woman at the well who was living with a man outside of marriage to "your sins are forgiven, go & sin no more"......& God forgives all our sins we ask to be forgiven.....& we as believers are to act in the same way.......we are NOT to hold past wrongs against others.....& only if we are sinnless ourselves (which NONE OF US ARE) can we cast the first stone...........

I wouldn't even consider wasting my time of my energy trying to have a relationship with this L person.....if he treats you this way when he gets angry at this point in your relationship.....it will only get worse the longer he knows you......it's just the way those kind of people act.

There are people out there (Believers included) who do not hold past actions against a person & are willing to know what is really in your heart....this L person doesn't seem to care the least bit about your heart or your emotions......sounds like a self-centered person who doesn't know how to treat women with any sort of respect or caring........it's God who does the judging as God is the only one who knows our hearts.....no human in this world is capable of knowing what God knows....so for him to treat you in such a manor just because he can't control his Anger.....how much worse will it get when he can't control his anger & he starts to hit you because he can get away with this?

Don't stick around to find out how much worse it can get......My prayer is that you learn to value yourself as God values you & that you learn to love yourself as God loves you......& God wouldn't tolerate that kind of treatment to any of his creation.....you shouldn't tolerate it either.