I've been following your threads, and as sexist as you may come across at times, your posting screeeeeams "victim mentality".

Your posts are all centred around how women's lives fail to revolve around you and the reason for this is some brand of female punishment.

So I thought I'd clarify some things for you because I'm just nice like that

*There is more to life than a relationship.

*People have friends, responsibilities, obligations etc. so it is impossible and unhealthy to wrap your world around any 1 thing or person.

* Expecting to be the centre of someone's universe because you're dating will be met with disappointment each time. People don't suddenly lose interest in their jobs where they might be working über - hard at getting a promotion, nor do they suddenly forget their gay bestie that they've had since Kindergarten.

* A relationship is for the most part, in most cases, figuring out how to combine 2 lives, not neccessarily erasing the current one and starting from scratch.

* You state that women want things to be our way, that its all about what we want, but here you are posting and posting about what you want, but you never reference anything you have offered...

I take it a woman's needs is secondary or irrelevant then no?

Double standards much?

*No pillow talk, you want to sleep for days after having sex, but you expect sex before even learning her lastname.
~ How is that not making her needs secondary?
her need is to talk, and cultivate intimacy, you dont oblige because you want to sleep for 3 days, (must be some coma inducing orgasms you have).

~ So I think its pretty safe to say, we all as people, meet those needs of our partners that we can, when we can. And when we can't, it doesn't automatically mean our partners are irrelevant. But it may mean we're incompatable if too many needs are unmet yes.

*You want her to give you the majority of time on her schedule, even though she's known you all of 2 minutes, and when she doesn'y comply, its all about her, her using sex or lack thereof to punish you.

~ Think about it, it is said that 70% of a fulltime working persons time is spent at work. She already has ways she's been spending the other 30%, including sleeping, so if she finds 10% to dedicate to you, you should feel pretty damn awesom I say!

* The relationships you referenced, ended for reasons already made clear by both ex's and posters. You were clearly incompatable. The one lady was not out for romance and commitment, you scared her off. The other had a very different communicating style... which I wish to elaborate on...

She sent you longwinded emails regarding communication no, You responded by wanting to resolve things in person, and the relationship ended...

She was right, she was sending you longass emails because she was more comfortable with, and maybe even more able to eloquently communicate about important things in writing.

You ignored this obvious fact and your talking it out responses made it clear to her that you and her had very different communication styles and were essentially incompatable.

~ In both relationships, I sense that you were not paying attention to your gf. No, I don't mean lavish HER with attention, I mean be PRESENT, be aware of your environment, process the information available, instead of dismissing obviously relevant details...

~ The first gf, W....T....F did you 2 talk about that you did not foresee her heading for the hills? Did she express any desire to become Juliet to your Romeo... like ever? Did you 2 not talk about your expectations, aspirations, values, plans?

Because somewhere in such talks, (had you bothered to have them) people voice their needs regarding these things...

~ The second gf, she sent you longwinded emails, and TOLD you the communication was off. Instead of asking how she would prefer to communicate, or sayyyyy PAY attention to the fact that she sent lonnng emails, (big clue there, or are emails not communication) you ignore the very tool she gives you, tell her you 2 need to sit down and talk, which had her heading out too...

* When a woman shows disinterest, you really shouldn't take it as a personal attack, everything is not about you, women don't spend their days formulating plans on how to punish men.

* Rejection is NOT a form of punishment, sometimes its not even about the person being rejected.

Eg, When I was not ready to be in a relationship because I barely had escaped the previous one with my life, how was that a punishment for the man/men I said no to?

It was about me, walking around with sore ribs, a bruised ego, shattered self-respect, shame, and lots of fear... I was in no way ready or able to be someone's gf then...

I was certainly not thinking "that douche used me for a punching bag, best I reject guys for a while because they all need to be taught a lesson"... I mean come Onnnn, thats RETARDED at best!

I can go on and on and on... but I'll stop.

Basically I think you sir need to take a longass look in the mirror and figure out why you feel victimized by women, because if it can shine through this brightly in a mere 3 threads that I've read, I can only imagine what it must be like to actually date you when this is your mentality...

Me personally? I would be put off as a potential partner in 3 seconds flat.

Btw. Don't generalize, its really ignorant, you're 32,not 9.