I have not read the book in question that talks about that birth mothers abandon their children. But I can say it is rather cruel to say that mothers who put their children up for adoption abandon them.

I personally think that birth mothers get a raw deal in the whole adoption process. First, in many cases, the birth mother is over looked. And then the "new parents to be" are glorified for undertaking such a feat as adopting another woman's child. The birth mother's feelings in many cases are not even considered. Many times she is thought of as this uncaring, cold hearted woman that gives up her child. How can a "mother" do that, is what many people say.

Well let me tell you, IMHO, the birth mother giving up a child for adoption is the most unselfish, most caring and loving woman in the world. To have carried a child in her body for 9 months and to go through the extreme pains of labor and then relinquish her child. Whatever a birth mother's reason is for giving up her child, she should be the one being shown consideration and compassion. She has given life to a child. And she has given a family that can not have children a chance to raise and love a child of their very own.

These issues that a woman abandons her child just irks me big time. If it were not for the birth mother, the adoptive parents would not have a child to raise. Nobody seems to care about the anguish and pain the birth mothers goes through. She is in many cases is the one that is abandoned. Esp when the baby is born and the papers are signed. . But then nobody knows the pain she feels and they don't even care.... Sad IMHO