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Nov 05, 2013, 05:27 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2013
Location: Canada
Posts: 101
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Originally Posted by I.Am.The.End.
I feel pretty much the same way, though I'm 25 now. I've even been turned down solely for being a virgin. Most of the people I know are married or in long-term relationships, and I'm just the "child" who will never have any of that.
Even if I were to get in that situation, it's too humiliating to have someone see me naked or have to explain that I have no idea what to do. To have to have them tell me step by step when they could literally find anyone else that could have sex with them without the instruction manual.
And relationships aren't about love anymore…it's all about sex, sex, SEX.
Sorry, it's probably not helpful to hear from someone so cynical, but if you read anything else on the forums, the need of the vast majority of guys to have sex outweighs how we feel…
Maybe the right guy will wait, but how dare we deprive him of SEX. How selfish of us. Alright, I'm being very sarcastic, but in reality that's how most guys think nowadays it seems. They buy us dinner, how dare we not put out. They don't care if we're not comfortable with it. That's why there's so much pressure and why there's that nervousness in the back of each of our minds about being pushed into doing things too quickly.
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You sound frustrated, I understand that, but I wanted to explain that there are men in this world that don't think or act like that, for example, Me! 
My GF and I are both virgins and we have both talked extensively about what we want from sex and our relationship, what we are and are not comfortable with, etc., and we're now 5 months into the relationship and we haven't had sex. Our lives are too stressful and uncertain right now (she says she can't enjoy it and feel stressed about life), and we're both waiting on finding out what contraceptives are compatible with her medical condition. The fact is that it might be almost a full year into our relationship before we have sex because we can't afford the contraceptive(s) she wants and she wants our lives to calm down before we do it.
Furthermore, I have told her repeatedly that if she isn't 100% comfortable with it, or as comfortable as she can be, we don't have to do it. Relationships are all about communication and compromise, and if the men you know can't see that, you know the wrong men!  
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