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Originally Posted by albert.anthony81
Ok perhaps I should express how I would like my
Next romance to play out..
We meet and exchange info, we go on a few
low-key but affordable dates(coffee, happy hour, etc)
in spots where there is a cozy spot we can initiate
some innocent "cuddling", then at some point
within 1-3 weeks I invite her over for a movie and
She agrees...knowing that this could lead to sex,
and Both of us ready and eager for it.
We do all short of actually sleeping overnight
together. She is super easygoing about it all
And not uptight. and doesnt make a big deal
about stupid tiny non-issues.
Then we naturally start sleeping over each others
Place, and then sit down to breakfast and "agree"
To a mutually monogamous relationship,
Agreed in person not by text or email.
After 4-5 mos. We move in together and this
adds to the trust level and makes it easier to
hookup too.
So that is my only "agenda". I obviously
Am not such a bad guy after all, am I?
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Wow. You've certainly got rather high and unrealistic standards and dreams!
If someone doesn't know you, at all, before going on the 1st date, then do not be surprised if sex does not happen within the first 3 weeks. Most people who have much in their lives will probably only commit to about 1 date a week if they like you. So they would have met you for a few hours and you expect after a few hours that they'll be happy to have sex with you? Sure... there are people who might be like that, but it's not the majority.
And you also expect cuddling within the first few dates? In public?! So you also need to find someone who is totally comfortable with PDA.
And within those first three weeks you expect her to read your mind that you're going to have sex the first time she goes to your place?
"doesn't make a big deal out of tiny non-issues" Wow, what a way to dismiss someone. It might not be a tiny non-issue to her. If it WAS a tiny non-issue then it wouldn't get brought up because it wouldn't be an issue. Just because YOU don't consider it to be an issue doesn't mean that it should be ignored. This is that whole compromise and accepting thing that you're lacking... and you're missing a huge amount of understand and compassion.
And what makes someone uptight? That's a rather rude thing to call someone just because they don't meet your standards and expectations.
And you expect all of this sexual intimacy within such a short amount of time and yet have no talk until a while AFTER that about whether or not it's going to be monogamous/serious? While it's true that it doesn't need to be talked about right away... it's usually a topic that's proper to discuss right about the same time that you're becoming sexually active with each other. So that you know you're on the same page and stuff.
Moving in after 4-5 months of dating? You have got your hopes up there. Maybe like 30 years ago relationships might have gone that way... but not so much now. Unless things went super fantastically and you were both head over heels in love. Most people don't want to move in and commit like that unless they're pretty sure they're comitting for the long run. Which very few people are sure of after 4-5 months.
Your agenda is very unrealistic for most women these days, to be honest. Again - you should really post this whole agenda on an online dating profile so that the women will have an idea what to expect. Because it isn't going to be acceptable to many women at all which is why you would be striking out so often.... amongst all the other things that other posters have pointed out.