Well, myself, my father AND my therapist have a suspicion that my mother has narcissistic personality disorder, though we know she will never change or seek help. This morning she showed me a beautiful black lace dress and told me she was going to buy it to wear to my wedding. I'm not getting married right now...I'm not even engaged OR living with my boyfriend. I told her it wasn't worth it to spend 400 hundred dollars on this dress before I'm even planning a wedding and I also reminded her that I wanted to wear a black dress to my wedding (I'm having it on halloween..day of the dead themed). She said okay, she won't buy it.
She calls me up a few hours later to tell me that she bought the dress. I'm really furious and told her that she knew I wanted a black dress and we can't both wear one. Her explanation was "I never wore a gown, I didn't have a wedding". So I asked her "Does that mean you get to make my wedding all about you then?", She laughed and said "yes" but then quickly said she was just joking and "we'll buy you even nicer one".
I don't get it. Why won't she take anything I say into account? Why must it always be about her..not to mention we haven't paid the mortgage in 8 months so spending 400 dollars so frivolously makes no sense.