[sorry I keep doing this thing where I don't say everything I mean to in the first post I make]

RE: looks, etc.

So, my experience was, regarding looks, whatever else...
I had pictures up, yeah.

One of the things I did when I would start to talk to them was tell them, pretty much right off "Look, I know my face looks cute, but I'm a big girl. If you can't deal with that, I don't really want to meet you. Also, I'm crazy-actually certifiable, and I don't want to hear any crap about that. So, if you can't deal with either of those things and I'm going to get crap, we can not meet at all ever"

...I think generally they found me engaging enough to continue conversation and meet?

I don't know what that says though, just an observation/"food for thought"