I can relate to your H for the simple fact I'm very boring in bed aswell... My girlfriend, who I love dearly always wants nothing more for me to bend her over, treat her rough, spank her, the whole nine yards... You don't know how bad I feel that I just cant get myself to treat her as she wishes... Every time I have tried, I've acted with poor results... It turns me off, I feel awkward, I slap her wrong... I am completely lost...
How do you suppose your H feels about all this after 19 years?
By all means, I'm not trying to knock you down a peg, and belittle you in any way... There's nothing wrong with wanting some fun abuse in the bedroom... Just, I know I'm not the only guy out there who just doesn't have it in him to treat the love of his life like a piece of meat that needs tenderized.