Dear CasColours,

I pretty much guessed that your mother might not be aware of how your father is abusing you.

I can't reiterate this enough - you are NOT responsible for your mother's accident because you did not cause it and you didn't know such a thing would happen!!!!! Doesn't matter if you were 7 months old or 7 yrs old or 17 yrs old or 27 yrs old 37 yrs old or 47 yrs old.
Whatever happened was an accident......irrespective of what your family says! It's very cruel of your father to not only blame a 7 yr old baby for it......but actually say he wished your mother hadn't saved you.

What your father has done is make you feel guilty for it and extract something he wants by exploiting you. Your father needs immediate help with mental health professional.

Even for a minute if a accept (just for argument sake), that your mother's accident was your fault - does it justify your father to sexually abuse you for it?? And if you were really responsible for your mother's accident - why are your brother's being physically abused as well?? And if he felt so "justified" in punishing you se.ually for it.....why would he keep it a secret from the entire family and put the big burden of secrecy on you as well.

None of what you believe and have been told by him is true. You are NOT responsible for your mother's condition.....it was an accident. Your father is making you feel guilty for it.....so that he can abuse you. He takes out his anger on all of you and that is just UNACCEPTABLE.

Please tell your mother and brothers about what your father is doing to you, in his absence. If you are not comfortable on how to tell to your family - pls meet a counselor and they'd guide you.

But please do tell someone - not only for you, but now, for your brothers as well - they are being physically abused too and it's not a safe place to grow for you or your brothers.

Pls meet counsellor or call child support.

We are here to help you!!!