A lacky band is a good alternative for some, just dont go overboard with it as it can turn into just another way to SI.

I never cut to stop myself from sui, it was totally unrelated for me so perhaps my healing journey is very different to what yours will be. But I am always happy to share my experience.

Try not to turn your thought into self blame or guilt for having these urges, it is part of the recovery process. You havent failed by having the urge, you've won by fighting it off so effectively for so long.

When I mention the child, think of this child as yourself. You are suffering, if you saw someone suffering you would help them wouldnt you? You wouldnt punish them more for being in pain. Why dont you deserve that same help? What makes you so incredibly terrible that you do not deserve love, support and care when you are hurting?

Having a sense of purpose is really important in everyones life, volunteering is fantastic. Many people (even non MI people) find it hard to stick with volunteering, but it is worth sticking with, especially if you find something you love and that is rewarding. I chose animals and disabled children, now I could not imagine a better more perfect job for me.

This may sound silly - but again my experience and if someone can take something away from it - brilliant! When I looked in the mirror, the first thought was always a negative awful thought about myself or my appearance. It happened so automatically I didnt even realise I was doing it. I challenged those thoughts. I started to say "I love you" everytime I saw my reflection. It was uncomfortable to do at first - for weeks/months, very uncomfortable, but I kept at it. Now it is almost automatic - I look in the mirror and I see someone who I love. By doing this simple exercise I am starting to see all of the other reasons I am a good person worthy of love and care. Sounds easy right? Well its not as easy as it sounds but it has certainly helped me.