I am sorry to hear that your birth mother and adoptive mother were both of questionable character. As far as children who's parents are abusive, I would think of them being rescued rather than being abandoned. But unfortunately, in your case, it appears that did not happen.

I still think that in a lot of cases the "birth mother" gets a bum deal. Not all birth mothers are abusive as not all adoptive parents are non-abusive.

I am proud of you that you have turned your life around and bow down to no one. It takes a lot of courage and strength to overcome one's abusive childhood and move forward. Thumbs up to you and your future....