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Originally Posted by Liinu
"okay, if I go out with this guy, he is going to expect sex out of me"
It's ONE date. I can never see him again if I don't want to. I guess it just feels like going out on one date is already like.. making a commitment to that one person. Which it is SO not.
Ugh.
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I think the real key here is in choosing the man you want to date. There are gentlemen left in the world, but you have to turn over the right rock. They won't be exciting and may be even a little dull and predictable, but they will put your comfort and willingness above their own desires.
Specifically:
- If he does expect sex (which some jerks do) just for giving you a date, then he's not worth wasting your time with
- Commitments still aren't about sex. A commitment is committing yourself to the relationship. Many committed people wait until marriage before they both lose their virginity.
- Date around, don't feel pressured by anyone or anything. If you date a guy and he pressures you before you're ready, he's not right for you. A real man will wait for you to be ready.
- By the way, I was 25 before I lost my virginity and I'm a guy. Of course in my case it was forced abstinence, I couldn't buy a date at a brothel.
Good luck out there!