I just wanted to say, to this aspect, isn't it such a relief?! To be able to not 'answer', to men like this???

I lasted almost 8 years in marriage. I just couldn't make it, another 2, to qualify for alimony, he was just too awful to be around.

There's things, to fight for. Backpay, child support. Try your best, to get FULL legal and physical custody. Wording for who pays and how college tuition is paid for. Make sure, there is wording, that also, allows you to take your kids, out of state, on vacation. This could bite you, if you just want to take 2 weeks to Disney, in the future.

Most states, have all the legal forms on-line. You can type it in and print or you can print or write them out.

I am going through a modification of custody, plus one more thing, right now. My lawyer, will only charge me, $175/hr in court only. No retainer, doesn't need to be paid, in full, that day, can make a payment plan. She mentioned that when I fill out the indigency affidavit, to note, that I want the extra fees, such as constable to serve him, checked off, and waived. I am about 2K below the states guidelines, I also have three kids. Most states, post that financial information on there. ((these are just recommends, pc friend to pc friend, to consider, while going through this stressful process))