Dear CasColours,

I am really sorry for misunderstanding . I guess I thought so because generally when you hear of a father sexually abusing their child, generally the picture that comes to mind is of a father exploiting his daughter.

Not to say that father sexually abusing son does not happen.....it does happen, unfortunately, in millions of homes across the world and it is heavily under-reported.

I'm genuinely sorry if you were hurt by any of such silly assumption and jumping to conclusion...I shdn't have done that!

But to continue from where I left....you earlier talked about parent disciplining their child. While I am completely against physically hitting child, I agree that anyone who does anything wrong should be disciplined. Your father is doing something grossly wrong. Who will discipline him??

Your father blames you for your mother's condition, which was unintentionally caused by someone else.....when you were a 7yr child! What about your father? He is intentionally hurting you and your brothers and he's an adult!

Please stop listening to all BS your father says to carry on with the abuse.

You need an adult with knowledge of the situation to intervene. That's why, please talk to your school counselor. If your school does not have a school counselor, please call or email child support in your country. These people are trained to handle the situation....since they may be dealing with 100s of such cases in a month. They'd even help you on how to tell your family. Sometimes family is supportive, sometimes, they are initially not supportive....but that doesn't mean victims should hide the truth to protect the abuser. I'd again reiterate - you will not be hurting the family by telling the truth about abuse. But your father is hurting the family by abusing you and your brothers.

Please don't contemplate on whether you should or shouldn't talk....you need to talk to someone who can help. Nothing good will come out by tolerating the abuse silently....but something good will definitely come by talking to either your counselor or people from child support.

I know it sounds very tough to do......but the first step will be the toughest. Pls take that first step.

Please do share any fears or thoughts you have. We are here to help you.