The double standard is usually quite normal from what I've seen. Heck, as far as the napping goes, I can fall asleep any time, anywhere, but my wife can't so she makes sure to wake me up if I fall asleep on the couch.

The texting thing though ... that bothers me. "Freaking out" like you said when he doesn't text you back sounds an awful lot like the start of some controlling behavior. It may be nothing, but can escalate into abuse. I'm not saying that's what it is, just that it's sounds like a concerning behavior.

Also, when you feel like something is amiss in your relationship, like a double standard, it doesn't hurt to go see a marriage counselor. It doesn't mean you're about to break up, it means you're doing what you need to strengthen the marriage.