I have this guy in my life who is a typical avoider...avoids any tense conversations at all costs. However, he has said to me that he'll always be there for me to talk when I need him but then when I reach out he ignores me. I've tried everything to get him to communicate with me and my anxiety is just going crazy at the moment because I just want a ******* answer from the guy!

We were doing the seeing each other casually thing, but he said he really cared about me. But for the past few weeks there's always seemed to be a reason why he couldn't see me. A couple of weeks ago we made plans to meet up and then he cancelled the day before saying he had to work. He apologised and said it would have to be the following weekend. I said I didn't know if I could do the following weekend but that I'd see how it goes. I was really upset by the cancellation and the following week I didn't hear a word from him. On the Sunday I contacted him and he asked how I'd been and I told him I'd been really down and he was really supportive and told me he thinks I'm lovely and wonderful.

A couple of days ago I was having a hard time not knowing what was going on with us as he wasn't initiating contact with me or giving me any signs he was interested in seeing me again. I tried to ask him what had happened and he just stopped responding...the next day he messaged me saying sorry that he fell asleep which just didn't seem true to me. I suggested we talk in person or on the phone as whenever I try to open up through text I end up feeling ignored and he said we could talk but that he was at work and he's sorry I feel that way. I told him I just needed to know what he wants to do and let me know a time he's free to talk if that's what he decides. I said I need to take care of my needs and he either respects that and wants me around or he doesn't. I told him to let me know when he was ready, but that was over 24 hours ago. Now the panic has set in again and I have no clue as to what to do. I've reached out and he's just avoiding me...I've tried to move on from him but it's unfinished business and I don't understand why he's doing this to me.

Any suggestions of what I should do??? I just don't know how to get him to talk to me...