I am 27 and I am a virgin. I understand the pressure and honestly, a few years back I always thought "hmmm you know, I am not just gonna sleep with just anyone, but if the right guy comes along and I feel safe I might go ahead and do it, I know how to be smart about it." But back then I had no prospective boyfriends, so I guess that was my safety net for thinking that way.

Eventually I came to realize that the idea of being able to say I saved myself for marriage was more important to me than having the anxiety of uncertainty (because of no fool-proof pregnancy prevention) that came along with premarital sex. My current boyfriend at first insisted on having sex, but was always respectful in that he never made me feel guilty for not wanting it or forced me after I explained my values.

I having a strong dislike for the fact that popular culture seems to insist that if you are a person in your 20s and you havent had sex there is something wrong with you. I dont knock down those who do, but I wish there was more respect for those of us 20+ who have decided to wait. Ive even had conversations with people who had multiple partners before marriage that say that although they dont regret their decisions entirely, they wish they had waited.

I know it sounds old-fashioned but I just want to make sure that that special experience is one I share with the person I plan on spending the rest of my life with.

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