Why all of a sudden did he want to talk to you? That's the real question. Maybe he was just looking for more benefits? Since you're married now, he realized that you're no longer an option. Another question you should be asking yourself, why did you marry your husband?? Why is your focus on someone you used to date? Do you not have such a strong connection with your husband? I read your other post about him acting insecure. Perhaps he has some instincts about how you're currently feeling sad over another guy. Dramatic interactions with a partner can sometimes be mistaken for love and emotional connection. I don't think BS was that great of a friend if you had stopped talking for over a year. He is probably someone that is not supposed to be in your life long term, and is a challenge for you to let go of. You're missing that old connection, not the person.