To me significant others are best friends that you really like to sleep with. I have no idea why he is with me and vise-versa but we're both very grateful, normally . It doesn't sound like that's the foundation you have.

A lot of fights we had was trying to tell the person they are 'wrong' when in a mood swing. I have spit in my husband's face once because of this and other issues. We have learned "Don't argue with the crazy person." Understand that their current delusion and feelings are currently their reality and should not be challenged by you. Any issues like that should be directed towards your therapist. Your job as a significant other is to love the person unconditionally, unbeknownst to the other keep them safe and "tell on them when needed" (tell the professionals when the other isn't well).

You are not allowed to choose who your friends date. So you can't break up with the person because your being an ***, or you don't deserve them. When you realize your being an *** because your having a moment of clarity, apologies don't really mean anything because it will just happen again in a couple of hours. Whether you'll admit it or not if your being an *** then your in a mood swing, if it's not that you need to look at why and re-evaluate your relationship. So when apologies mean nothing small I'm grateful of you mean everything. We have a bag of little cards that tell us special things to do for the other person because as everyone here knows thinking isn't our strong suit when things are bad for us.

As for violent tendencies. Sex and masturbation is a wonderful realise for that. As is karate sparing and play fighting with a medium or large dog. I've had to have my husband break me and my dog up because I had a busted lip, was scratched up bad, and didn't relies. With intrusive extremely violent thoughts that could cause permanent damage or death I take seraquol PRN. My husband and son do karate 3x a week to help with wanting to cause injury to self and others.

Our house is probably safer than most hospitals. It's me proofed as I tend to be the more violent one but my husband has no access to our meds. I have other issues that flare when not the best. Anything that could be used to harm myself or others are kept high in the kitchen and there's no way I'd go in there just looking that direction makes me gain weight . I'm completely scared of the hospital and my husband's need to follow rules works for/against us when saying stay in this room until the alarm goes off usually works to let the other one sleep if the sleeping meds isn't working. I do not have my license, I will not get it and my husband generally isn't allowed to drive alone as we view episodes as driving drunk.

As for bills and things like that. We grocery shop 1x a month, and have all our bills directly withdrawn. neither of us really have access to that account. So any money we spend is gas money for the month. As for the phone voice mail is a wonderful thing. Whichever is the wellest checks voice mail every morning. Doesn't mean we do anything with it but at least someone knows who called.

We've always been really good at figuring ways around things. Because thinking straight isn't a strong suit at time the significant other can make emergency appointments and just tell the other we forgot the appointment. Most important is that each of us need to feel that the other is always on our side no matter our mood because being actually against the other person, even if it's just perceived will ruin the relationship. Disagreements are fine but not when one is sick.

We also have a wonderful team of doctors that have agreed to work with us as one. Each of us have our own therapists, and psychiatrists, we share a GP, our team has complete access to each of our files, we add or subtract from our team if needed or if they go against our treatment plan as it puts them all in question bringing us to start playing Dr/therapist to each other. Our deal to them and us is to be completely honest with them, even if I have to write it and call ******** on the other when needed.