Call it frustration and resentment rather . Talking ends up costing more anxiety and finally becomes a fight or "you do not like -your problem. This is marriage,and you are mostly wrong ,if you can not do it -don't "it is usually being said in cold tone , like I betrayed him .when anxiety kicks in because of that he suggests to take ADs,Am I being selfish thinking that I want some acknowledgement ,not harsh words( no matter what kind of present he will get me for bday with words of love)?