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Originally Posted by wife22
Talking ends up costing more anxiety and finally becomes a fight or "you do not like -your problem. This is marriage,and you are mostly wrong ,if you can not do it -don't "it is usually being said in cold tone , like I betrayed him .when anxiety kicks in because of that he suggests to take ADs,Am I being selfish thinking that I want some acknowledgement ,not harsh words( no matter what kind of present he will get me for bday with words of love)?
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You're being reasonable. He is being abusive, unreasonable. This is no way to run any relationship, least of all marriage. We are humans with the powers of thought and speech as well as empathy. Therefore we should use all of those in a civilized manner to treat situations fairly. No doubt your husband would not agree with me. Thankfully, my husband and I agree 100% on this one. It's really nice to be able to resolve things and respect each other all the time, including admitting our mistakes. The fact you even question whether you are being selfish shows you are doing all the work in this relationship and he just sitting back and taking what he can get. I wonder if he realizes how awful he sounds.