I have the same issues and thoughts myself (I'm female, by the way, in case that matters). I feel like I have an attractive face and hair, but an ugly body. So someone could be attracted to me with clothes on but not without them. I also worry about my weight. People tell me I'm skinny enough, but to me, you aren't skinny unless you're the size of a model. So I feel like I need to lose several more sizes, somehow lose all the scars on my body, somehow get rid of the acne on my chest etc. I don't know how to get over it or how it's fair on whoever is intimate with me (if that ever happens).

Maybe the first time can be in the dark and/or partially clothed?

And what I find attractive about male partners is mainly personality. Although, I do have a stronger preference for little to no body hair and generally boyish in overall looks (I think I'm in the minority on that one though). I do find that my preferences are more lenient when I have an emotional connection to someone though.