I kinda thought the same as Ozzie when you mentioned Christian values. There has been some major hangups in the Christian religion about sex. OK OK before anyone yells at me, let me rephrase that. It isn't the religion that has the hang ups since there is a whole chapter in the bible listing the procreative powers of the people in the book, it is some administrators and followers who have the hang ups...anyway, I am wondering if somewhere in your husband's past he got mixed messages about what sex is all about. I mean good sex between husband and wife.

Another concern is the pornography. It can become a real addiction, like alcoholism and such. Sometimes it needs to be treated as an addiction. This is an extremely tricky thing. I am wondering if he became addicted to porn while he was trying so hard to maintain his christian values. Then I fear for the huge burden of guilt he must be carrying.

Long post short, it would be a good idea if you could get him into counseling with you. I don't think this is something that you will have a very happy time unraveling by yourself.
Carrie

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