{{{{{{{{{Aint}}}}}}}}}} Hon, I'm sorry you are going thru such a rough patch.
I know depression can get the best out of you. And also if I may say something, I think you guys need to sit down and talk all this over, every relationship takes a lot of work, and I know somedays we are just too tired to do anythign about it, but an open comunication adn understanding can do wonders.
I hope you can find your way.
PM me anytime~