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Old Nov 08, 2013, 11:33 AM
Anonymous33345
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Originally Posted by JaySmiley2 View Post
I'm young and still in my teenage years and have a girlfriend. We've been going out for about 2 and a half months and my parents just found out. Not by me telling them but by them going through my phone messages..
It annoyed me they invaded my provacy and I wasn't ready to deal with their opinon on it. Since they found out its been awkward and really uncomfortable they keep making gay jokes and I can't stand it.
They are probably just trying to make it seem funny or make me more comfortable talking about it with them but I just close up and walk away.
My parents also keep telling me its just a phase and I'll get over it and be normal again. Now that hurt..
Even if it was a phase their saying so is irritating and hurtful. I really love my girlfriend, I don't care if its just teenage love.. its love all the same. I don't know how to talk to them about any of it, or get them to stop with the jokes. I don't know how to deal with it...

Firstly, you are normal. You are more than just a sexuality too and I'm surprised your parents aren't acting more adult about this. You sound level headed yourself so I suppose the only thing you can do is state clearly and firmly that you're not ready to discuss the matter further but you would still like them to respect your relationship even if they're not sure about it.

Give things time, your parents might just be a bit shocked about the whole thing. That doesn't however excuse some of the things they're doing even if it's just an outlet for discomfort. The next time they start making jokes or saying something inappropriate, state simply and with civility that you won't tolerate it and then remove yourself from the situation.

Chances are they'd rather be in their daughters company then say stuff they know will cause her to leave. It might also bring them round to the idea that you can't be rushed into discussing the matter more quickly. It's a game of tact unfortunately and you've just got to go along with it as best as you can and be responsible for your own actions, not theirs.

Stay strong. It's wonderful you've found someone you like and I wish you all the happiness with them regardless of what you do or don't come to understand about your sexuality. Good luck.