Dear medicalfox,

Sorry for what you've gone through. Home should be a safe haven for people where they'd never be hurt....not the place they dread. Looks like you've never had a place to call home .

No....you should never tolerate abuse. Abuse is not better than anything.

Do your parents still beat you?? If you are still being physically abused and endangered - then maybe your decision to walk out of your home was right.

Generally psychologists ask you to cut off your parents ONLY if parents behave too toxic to be in their kids' lives. But not without ensuring you have an alternative safe place to live. No contact is encouraged only when you have made some progress in therapy in need 'no contact' to either rediscover yourself and rework on relationship with family - or to stop abuse.

If you had to walk out of your family - then I presume the abuse was that bad....and you had your reasons......and it wasn't a rash decision made without thinking of what you will do (i'm sorry if i'm assuming things)

First and foremost - can you mend your relationship with your parents and rent out a space in there and yet maintain some sort of no contact? Maybe you can try writing a letter to them, with lots of expert views on how abuse hurts them? Would they be open for the idea of therapy??

If not, you would need to take up a job somewhere (for a short time) - doesn't matter how big or small - as long as it pays. You need to improve your situation financially and that should be your first priority if you cannot work things with your family.

Do you have a relative or cousin or friend, with whom you can share a room and offer to pay rent??

Can you contact some sort of NGO or Abuse Shelter in your country that helps abused women?

If you've decided to stay away from your family till they mend their ways, then you need to have a plan in mind on how you are going to face the situation. Without a plan, you'd be like a headless chicken - and would be detrimental for your recovery.

Please tell us more about your situation, thoughts and feelings. We are here to help!