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Originally Posted by nevergoodenough
I don't know the situation exactly but this isn't healthy, and if you're in a relationship with that mindset, it won't work. You won't die without him. You don't need him to live. But I understand all of those feelings, however. I would suggest trying to distance yourself from him temporarily and focusing your life on something else before the obsession gets worse. Make contact impossible for a little while.
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Good advice.
Thing is this is not untypical of BPD people. You're enmeshed and way too dependent on constant contact with this person. Thing is your relationship will never be very strong without getting past this point. It may seem impossible to break free from this but you
must force yourself to untangle yourself from them and get some space for your own good. Independent partners are far stronger as a couple than people that think they "can't live without each other".