I would look at your life and arrange it the way you want it. I did not understand in your opening post why you were not sleeping during the day, instead of doing the "boring mundane around the house" and how you were working half a day and then that night too? Or was the first half day not paid work? I would create a schedule for myself and see how it could fit, making sure I scheduled sleep time so I did not harm my health as it sounds like you are doing.

As far as compliments; I do not know when the two of you are together and available to each other to "see" what the other is doing? My husband thanks me for fixing him dinner but that is when we are both eating dinner together after I fix it. I thank him for taking the trash out when I see it overflowing and he finally gets around to taking it out, trying to "train" him that it is good to take the trash out before it overflows It does not sound like you two are together very much, working together as a couple should but too much doing what each wants/thinks they "should" without sharing with the other. Does your husband know you work nights so he can sleep then? Have you asked your husband to work nights sometimes too (or why can you not both work days and both sleep nights?) I do not think I quite understand what is going on in your household.