Wouldn't you rather know about those things than have them catch you off guard later?

I am sure that both my parents has serious social anxiety issues but that was back in the 1950's before terms like that even existed.....& I have to admit....it made life very difficult for me growing up.....had to learn how to handle & deal with things basically on my own rather than being able to learn from my parents.....& I was embarrassed about having my parents around me.....never wanted anyone to know that I belonged to them when we were out in public.....while in reality....they weren't as bad as I felt they were. I don't think it was a challenge for them as they fit together well....but put a child in the mix....& that's a whole different story.....but just meeting someone & enjoying their company as a friend to start with is the best place to start any relationship anyway....if you can't be friends why bother being anything else IMO.