next time someone writes about things liek this in such detail, please put the word trigger at the top

now, yeah guys are pigs as they say. you know he might just think that his inability makes you not like him, or he thinks it makes him less of a person, or that he can't please you, the girls and porn are prolly just cause he's horney. sorry. had to say it. it sounds liek he may be depressed. has he ever had problems with the relations with you after the marrage? have you asked him why? there is such a thing as a couples sex therapist, and the issues usualy have nothign to do with sex itself. check it out. he might be feeling so guilty about that he thinks you don't love him that way anymore......who knows.

"don't kick the puppy" ~ j.e.p.