I was married to a verbal abuser (and physical) for 31 years. The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans saved my life and sanity. I believe it should be required reading for everyone on the planet. Yes, the 'repercussions" thing....I hve been alone fo 10 years and he...the abuser has someone in his life. Unfortunately our society is still in the dark ages in regards to emotional abuse, but in France....they do have a law against verbal abuse. I have been working like a "Trojan" for over 10 years to get the message out there and speak on National Television. I presented my paper, Society's Hidden Pandemic, Verbal Abuse Precursor to Physical Violence and a Form of Biochemical Assault to the Michigan Counseling Association. Abusers are narcissists and it is a waste of time to tell them your feelings and thoughts. They do not hear you. All you can do is be the best parent you can, love and nurture your children. 1 in 3 women will be physically assaulted in their lifetime and it all begins with verbal abuse. Verbal abuse (alone) can physically change the brain....I have slides from a researcher at Harvard that shows that....Unbelievable. Every time we are under stress, out bodies release cortisol; cortisol damages the immune system. I have always said it is a miracle (after 31 years of abuse) that I am not dead! Educatiion is the key. I hope you will read the book I mentioned. Love and hugs, Nicole