I think there is a difference between showing appropriate emotions, and expressing frustration with a client who very reasonably feels exposed and uncomfortable after sharing private information. My T is great about expressing his feelings generally, BUT if he feels frustrated with me when I shut down and pull back after telling him something difficult and private, he NEVER tells me that and I would feel horrible if he did.

He tells me how normal it is that I feel that way given how I grew up and that this is a slow process and not to beat myself up about how long it takes, etc. He leaves reassuring voicemails when I ask him to, letting me know that the exposed feeling is normal and will pass and the information I gave him does not change how he thinks of me or feels about me.