I don't know where to start so bear with me please. my wife and I are both bipolar she is also an addict and I may be too but I'm not sure. we've been together for nearly 6 years and just last week she decided to tell me that she's been lying to me and was using again and that she wanted to go to rehab. but the fact of the matter is that like me she uses in order to not deal with her mental health issues And not face the pain and work involved in therapy. I take my meds and see a therapist regularly and I thought I had dealt with my codependancy issues but the fact that she can turn life upside down like this tells me I haven't. she says that she gets it this time and that she knows she has to be strong for her and I have to be strong for me And then and only then can we be strong together but after 6 years I'm not sure I have the strength to go through battle again and put all of my needs on hold AGAIN. I'm beginning to build resentment and I feel I'm at my threshold for pain. how can she ask me to support her through this and stay with her I feel like she's selfish and then that makes me feel horrible but the reality of all of this is that until she handles her business she can not possibly meet my needs in this marriage and I'm not sure I can keep being supportive of someone who is incapable of supporting me... anybody have any thoughts?I guess I really just need to talk