Hello

I've noticed that anytime someone around me screams or tells I follow suit and scream back. E.g. my daughter (8 year old) was screaming cause she thought she was bleeding (It was a little blood from bumping her nose hard on the floor). But instead of consoling her quietly I started screaming "you're fine, you're fine, it's just a little blood, calm down!". Another time my wife and I were having an argument and she was saying there is a huge problem with me, with us, and then got loud and I got loud as well.

I've thought about this and I think I can't handle disharmony. For me, everything has to always be OK. If its not I get agitated.

Anyone experience this? Any suggestions? Books, articles etc.?

Thanks in advance!